There are many lies we tell ourselves each day. Call it “mindset drama,” “negative brain,” “fear.” I see it in many women entrepreneurs I talk to and help each day. Gosh, I see it in myself.
Is there something wrong with us then?
Let me reassure you that NO, there isn’t. Unfortunately, that’s how we, as humans, are built and operate. This daily negative self-talk might have helped us in caveman ages survive and not be eaten by predators. Still, In modern days it is more self-sabotage than anything else.
There are thousands of such thoughts coming up in our brains every single day.
Here are five that I see frequently showing up for many women entrepreneurs. These five are directly preventing them from growing their business.
Because they keep you away from focusing on income generating activities.
This platform is not good for me.
“I can’t find any clients even though I’m on this platform every day: networking, bringing value” – ergo, “it’s not good for me.” Whether it be Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, or anything else you have such thoughts about, before you abandon the platform and move on to the next one – double-check with yourself.
Are your ideal clients hanging out on this platform?
If the answer is yes, then think about what kind of activities you do to attract them and whether you’re consistent with them.
Maybe “it isn’t good for you” because you aren’t consistent and only show up sporadically. Perhaps it’s your networking skills that need improvements. Or maybe it’s your messaging that’s not clear and therefore not attracting your ideal clients.
If that’s the case, switching to a new platform won’t solve your issue, only aggravate it.
People have no money to invest in services I offer.
You are right – in your pursuit for clients, some might not have money to invest with you. But not all.
Think about it. If other people in your niche are making money and attracting clients – it means people need what you have to offer.
Because in reality, you’ll find three types of potential clients:
- ones that indeed have no resources or the will (and they’ll use money as an excuse) to invest in your services now,
- ones that already invested in someone else and don’t need more, and
- the ones that are actively looking for your help ready to invest right now, a.k.a. your ideal clients.
So your job is to reframe “people have no money thought” into “I’m attracting people who are ready to invest” and then go out there and find them.
I can’t seem to find the right people.
This thought is related to the one above. The “right people” are the ones who are already ready for your help. Your ideal clients are the ones who’re looking for it actively or at least starting to consider that they need it.
If you’re having a hard time attracting them, then maybe it’s time to look at your messaging or marketing strategy. This will allow you to see what you’re doing or not doing that’s preventing you from attracting “the right people.”
Focusing on what you can control coupled with action gives you your power back. When you blame “external circumstances” for your lack of results, you give that power away.Tweet
I will fail anyway, so why even try.
Our thoughts create our results. This thought is a very example of this truth. You had failed without trying because you told yourself a lie before even a real “failure” happened. You created failure with your own thoughts because it prevented you from taking action.
And only action can bring you the clients, income, and success you dream of.
Yes, action can be messy, and often we stumble, and that stumbling hurts. But when you don’t try at all, the pain of not helping your clients and doing what you love is worse. Which pain are you going to choose then?
Why would anyone buy from me?
“There are so many other entrepreneurs in my niche out there: more successful already, smarter, with better offers. So who & why would buy from me?”
And to that, I say why not?
You are as smart and talented as them. And in a unique way that no one can replicate. There is no other like you.
And you know what?
There are at least 5 people out there right now waiting for your offer, ready to buy, and happy to give you their money in exchange for your help.
So let that thought sit with you for a while instead of the negative one. How does it make you feel? What does it inspire you to do?
And as your inspiration, take this quote (whether you believe in God or not):
God didn’t have time to make a nobody, only a somebody. I believe that each of us has God-given talents within us waiting to be brought to fruition.Mary Kay Ash
Are you ready to shed your negative thoughts and replace them with ones that serve you?
With ones that empower you to grow your business, attract more clients, and make more money?
I’m sure you are. Don’t wait, do it. Reframe your thinking and help your confidence. And if you want to learn more on how to do it regularly, on-demand, and grow your business skills at the same time, schedule a free discovery call with me here. If we’re a good fit, I will be able to help you.